I'd take a mathematical guess on the wild side here, and say that 100% of home schooling families are asked this question at least once:
"What about, you know, when they get to high school Math? You know, the hard Math. You know, the Math that we all for the most part hated, struggled through, barely passed when we were in high school, and avoided if we could in college, and have happily forgotten nearly everything about, you know, except for the Math-Smart people. What about the, ahem, hard Math?"I know I've been asked this question. Boy, do people like to bring this up. A lot. The amount of times I've answered it, is, well, let's appropriately use another Math term: incalculable.
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We don't just coast through math lessons for years and then BAM one day hit HARD MATH.
Everything is incremental, one building block at a time. I am learning right along with them. It's a natural process, and we would never leave anyone behind.
In a large classroom, a child may not really
get something. They could miss it and a teacher may not know, until several building blocks later when they fail a test, and then the child cannot understand where the rest of the class is and they feel lost- but the class keeps going. Then they get nervous and tense and feel pressured or humiliated. Then they regress more, they build a fear of Math (or another subject), they have an even harder time catching up, they lose confidence. Then, and this is just so hard, then maybe over time the teacher sees the need to send them to a special group for the children who need more help one on one that she can't give. And then they feel labeled, set apart, and so it goes for them. It's very tough.
We love Math. We use a fun, hands-on, thorough,
age-appropriate curriculum (Saxon) that is just right- concepts are clear and
just above where my children's minds are at the moment, so it's a
fun and natural challenge to reach up and grasp the next block.
All of our learning at school is appropriately incremental, in every subject. I always make sure we have just a few, strong building blocks in each lesson, sometimes even just one block- but we really,
really know it at lesson's end and the blocks are very rarely forgotten. If we don't
know it at the end of the lesson, we don't move on until we do and we visit it the next day (this has only happened perhaps a handful of times in three years, because the blocks are an
appropriate challenge). Usually, even just visiting the block again the next day is all it takes for the light bulb moment for a child, or for me in my own life.
Gaining knowledge or skills should NEVER be a struggle. Challenging, yes. Real work? Many times yes. But, if there is a
struggle, there is something wrong with the process. Then perhaps the material, or the method, or the child's attitude, or the teacher's- maybe one of these needs to be adjusted. Learning is a natural thing and every child is wired to LEARN. If there are serious hiccups, it's
not the child's fault- things just need to be evaluated.
And so Math, as it is with all other learning, is a constant, ever-growing, building process. And when subjects like Algebra, Geometry, Physics, Trigonometry, Calculus, any of the "Hard" things come- they come the same way- at a time that is appropriate, and they come incrementally, just as one would study Shakespeare, Latin, or the stars. One lesson at a time. You start with your Geometry curriculum at Day 1. And you grasp it. Then move forward.
There is no difference.
And I am moving on day by day right beside them. 2.
I am moving on day by day right beside them. I don't have to know it all at once. I get to grow too. I have a chance to see the world and study it and learn 7,000 fascinating things each school year right along with my children. Basically, I am going to school all over again, and
I'm amazed every day at what I learn in school, from our fascinating biographies, science lessons, math lessons, from amazing art, from the books we read. I am such a more full, well-rounded person because of home school. I made a commitment a long time ago in college that I would be a lifetime learner. A covenant with myself. I will never stop building with the blocks all around me. I will seek to be a more informed citizen of God's world. Home school keeps me always seeking, always learning all the more, and
learning alongside my children has been so fascinating, so very beautiful, really. It's amazing. Their observations, their feelings and thoughts and questions about the world are just
brilliant. To see our education paint new strokes on the canvas of their young minds is just
breathtaking at times. I am so privileged to learn with them.
And for this woman who was once a child who always struggled with Math, who cried all the times I couldn't go to recess for not memorizing my times tables...I have a new birth. I can see and learn Math all over again, and it's wonderful. 3.
There are myriad resources out there. Extra curricula online and in print. Tutors, fun extra classes, books and more books, AP and other college prep classes- My kids, as they grow, will have many teachers through resources like these and more, and I can keep up with their work right along with them. Because...
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How can I EVER expect my children to learn, and even want them to excel at a subject that I know nothing about? Whether I am home schooling or they attend another school. How could I
ever do that? My parents were this way. When I brought home my report card, clad in A's and B's save for Math, which I never failed, but commonly had C's, and the occasional D for the quarter- they would ALWAYS be very pointed about my need to do my homework more, to get my grades up. But I knew,
without a doubt, if I were to open my book for them, they would have absolutely NO IDEA what I was learning about, or even were to BEGIN to do it themselves. Even as young as 3rd grade I have
vivid memories of my mother telling me to memorize those times tables, but she never, ever, and neither did my father, ever help me with my homework. It intimidated them. All subjects. They were educated through high school and then happily ended their education. They just went on working and knowing what they had to and forgetting the rest. And so as I grew up with this repeated countless times, I grew more and more certain of my parent's hypocrisy. They could not do it.
They had no right to require something of me that they were unwilling to learn themselves. Yes, they were older, yes, it would have required them to work very hard to grasp it- but they absolutely could have done it. They just needed to want to. And even as a young child, this was clear to me. Jim and I will
not do the same for our children.
So whatever your "Hard" subjects were, you have that same opportunity too. Don't give way to fear that you will "mess up" your children, or fail them. If home is the best place for your children to learn, and you've embraced the lifestyle, then you can live free to learn, one day at a time and enjoy all the blessings and rewards along the way. Is it challenging? Of course. Almost nothing of great value comes easily or cheaply.
Unless you've birthed a houseful of Doogie Howser M.D.'s, you're absolutely equipped to teach them, and I'm sure they're happy to have you along for the ride.